If you are visiting this page, you are likely feeling despair due to your husband's repeated betrayal. Whether from pornography or acting out physically with other people, what your husband has done has left your heart broken and your spirit crushed. I would like to tell you there is hope.
You may not be able to see it now, and that's okay. It's not only okay for you to let yourself feel the pain, it's an important part of the grieving process. You will find that with time, this will get easier, and you will become stronger. What you choose to do with that time will have a big impact on how long it takes you to recover. So don't be afraid to reach out. You may feel all alone, but I am here to show you that you are not.
My name is Ella and I am the wife of a sex addict. I am also a Licensed Professional Counselor and Certified Clinical Sexual Addiction Specialist. In the months following the discovery of my husband's addiction, I felt everything I described above and more. My emotions were all over the place. Panic, fear, loneliness, hopelessness, confusion, anger, inadequacy, depression, and helplessness are just a few words to describe the emotions that were swirling around inside me. I was more forgetful than usual, had trouble concentrating, and couldn't stop the vivid thoughts.
I created this website for a variety of reasons. First, my primary website for my private practice in Houston, TX was becoming overloaded with information on sex addiction. I wanted a site dedicated completely to coping with being married to a sex addict.
Second, I want to reach other wives all over the country who are looking for answers, information, encouragement, and support.
Finally, I want to help spread the word about a new approach to addressing the needs of spouses that can not be found through most websites or from most professionals. I am currently working with a group of other therapists to help change this.
Women who are struggling with their husband's sex addiction or compulsive sexual acting out will get together to support one another. In this group, unlike many others, you will not be labeled a co-addict and the trauma and loss you have experienced will be addressed by a Licensed Professional Counselor who has been there. Whether or not you are still married and whether you discovered the addiction a week ago or years ago, you are welcome in this group. We will use a curriculum with weekly homework that will assist you in your healing.
February 3, 2014
16 Week Session
Mondays from 6:30 PM - 8:00 PM
Sessions will meet in Katy, TX
Email Ella for more information.
Next training session for the Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists (APSATS) begins February 5, 2014 in Los Angeles. Ella is a Board Member of APSATS which is the only organization that specializes in the preparation and certification of Partner Specialists.
Join us at the next International Association of Clinical Sex Addiction Specialists Conference scheduled for May 1-3, 2014 in Dallas, TX. Ella is a Board Member of the IACSAS and will be speaking about partner sensitive marriage counseling .
What Every Wife Has a Right to Know About Her Husband's Recovery by Ella Hutchinson, LPC-S, CCSAS
Seven Tips for Wives of Sex Addicts Looking for a Good Therapist
by Ella Hutchinson, LPC
Stop the Abuse of Partners of Sex Addicts by Ella Hutchinson, LPC
Having Productive Conversations When Your Husband Watches Porn
by Lisa Eldred
Every Man's Battle
by Steven Arterburn
Estimates that 10% of men are sexual addicts
IF YOUR MARRIAGE HAS BEEN AFFECTED BY SEX ADDICTION,
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Jeff and Ella Hutchinson will dedicate three days to helping you find healing and hope after the devestation sex addiction has brought to your marriage. Each intensive is different, based on your unique needs. Some of the issues addressed include understanding sex addiction and why he did what he did, understanding the trauma the spouse has suffered due to the addiction, helping the addict learn how to offer his wife the support she needs, recovery tools for the addict, finding healing for the spouse, finding healing for the marriage, and learning how to start rebuilding trust.